Ever wanted to create the aura of your personality when you enter a room? Being likable is totally under your control. It is all about your ability how you manage your personality and some social skills.
Here are few social skills to help you craft your personality into a million-dollar personality.
Keep eye contact
Maintain eye contact. It requires no practice, just meet someone’s gaze while conversing to show that you are actually paying attention. It is the simplest yet the most effective thing to convey competence which can develop trust. The ones who maintain eye contact are considered comparatively more intelligent.
Smile is another simplest and effective skill to convey warmth that needs no practice. Just have a good positive body language because this is what people need. Be positive and people will return it for sure.
“Along with a smile, show some enthusiasm and energy, also known as charisma,” suggests Rosalinda Oropeza Randall, an etiquette and civility expert and the author of “Don’t Burp in the Boardroom”.
Don’t just listen — actively listen
You need to listen actively to make someone sure that you are actively listening and paying attention. There are four steps to active listening: hearing, interpreting, evaluating and feedback.
In the first step, you need to pay attention to the speaker. Then, interpret and evaluate whatever he/she has just said. Ask clarifying questions without jumping to conclusions. In the end, provide speaker with your feedback and express your opinions.
Know how to accept a compliment
Accepting a compliment can be tricky and difficult. You need to respond in a way that neither seems egocentric nor immature.
Respond confidently with phrases like, ‘Thanks!, Hearing that feels really good”.
Flattery is effective, but excessive use can be a huge turn-off, especially if it is not appropriate or genuine.
There is a specific and effective way of affirmation. Ask questions that allows them to focus on what is meaningful about themselves and their lives. In this way, people get a feel of inclusion, and it is a win-win most of the time.
Practice good posture
Bad posture conveys a lot about your personality. One can easily get a feel of apathy from your side.
Practice good posture, stand and sit-up straight, because it is another effective way to convey competence.
Be true to your word
Stay true to whatever you say. This is what matters the most to develop trust among people and create charisma. Be accountable of your own mistakes, and be someone people can count on.
Make everyone feel included
Make every group member included in your conversation. If you ever see that someone tried to say something but got cut-off, help them jump in the conversation. Never let them feel out-of-the-group or uncomfortable.
Don’t jump to conclusions
Sometimes we jump to judgments earlier, and it can be a huge turn-off as well. In order to avoid negative judgments, get familiar with the non-verbal communication.
We need to completely understand, interpret and evaluate the speaker before jumping to any conclusion.
End a conversation right
Ending a conversation right can have a huge difference. It can create a lasting impression on someone’s mind. Sending people off with a genuine remark like, “I enjoyed getting to know you,” or “I hope you enjoy the rest of your day.”